The transition from your personal revelation with your son to your professional realization as an organizer is seamless. You accurately diagnose a massive gap in the market: resources usually treat parenting and home organization as completely separate spheres, ignoring how deeply intertwined our emotional state is with our physical environment.
The parenting market is closely tied to buying more to fix parenting problems. I have a lesson that addresses why I don’t used chores charts because it creates another layer that doesn’t help your child notice what needs to be addressed. But marketing of productivity charts, app, educational toys, toys that are smaller versions of what you already have, it all adds up to more clutter - and instead of fostering internal motivation, it borderlines developing people pleasing.
I try to keep these concepts simple and practical in the Dooley Method so it doesn’t feel too daunting to shift away from many traditional parenting approaches. Because once you make the connection, it becomes so clear how organizing a home can bring families closer together.
This! ‘Good enough’ is such a gift to our families. It moves the focus from 'performing' to actually connecting. In my world, I’ve found that once that connection is solid, the confidence naturally follows. Such a timely reminder.
Humans thrive when we feel connected. I was just writing a new piece about the outdated approach to parenting through reward or punishment. Those only work in the moment when children rely on parents to stay alive. But the damage that lingers, leads to long term harm. The good news though, if parents give themselves grace, they can be more willing to do the same for their children. Not to become permissive, but through connection and work as a team.
absolutely, Connection triumphs always!
ALWAYS!!!
The transition from your personal revelation with your son to your professional realization as an organizer is seamless. You accurately diagnose a massive gap in the market: resources usually treat parenting and home organization as completely separate spheres, ignoring how deeply intertwined our emotional state is with our physical environment.
The parenting market is closely tied to buying more to fix parenting problems. I have a lesson that addresses why I don’t used chores charts because it creates another layer that doesn’t help your child notice what needs to be addressed. But marketing of productivity charts, app, educational toys, toys that are smaller versions of what you already have, it all adds up to more clutter - and instead of fostering internal motivation, it borderlines developing people pleasing.
I try to keep these concepts simple and practical in the Dooley Method so it doesn’t feel too daunting to shift away from many traditional parenting approaches. Because once you make the connection, it becomes so clear how organizing a home can bring families closer together.
This! ‘Good enough’ is such a gift to our families. It moves the focus from 'performing' to actually connecting. In my world, I’ve found that once that connection is solid, the confidence naturally follows. Such a timely reminder.
So true! Connection is everything.
Humans thrive when we feel connected. I was just writing a new piece about the outdated approach to parenting through reward or punishment. Those only work in the moment when children rely on parents to stay alive. But the damage that lingers, leads to long term harm. The good news though, if parents give themselves grace, they can be more willing to do the same for their children. Not to become permissive, but through connection and work as a team.