I felt so sad reading about this situation. But when I try to empathize with that mother, I think she might have exhausted all her options and ended up turning to a punishment like this—even if she knew deep down it wasn't the right way. It’s definitely the easy way out, but it leaves wounds that are so hard to undo.
When we stay patient and choose the path of connection—even if it takes a long time to get things back on track—that’s when we raise individuals who can build healthy, lasting relationships in the future. The Dooley approach basically says: 'Come on, let's take a long-term, healthy step and build a bond together!'
Thank you so much for this insightful post, Ann! 🌸✨
I believe she did what she thought was “for his own good” and she probably had a similar experience that made that feel acceptable. When my dad used to hit me and my sister, my mom later told me she didn’t intervene because she thought that’s just what he does as a father. 😩 That to me is a generational issue, and it’ll keep happening until the parent realizes the harm and actively work on self healing and break the cycle.
It’s amazing how your experience from childhood shapes you as an adult.
It’s all related right? That’s why it’s so important we need to focus on connection when kids are little, to foster trust and a sense of belonging.
Absolutely!
That must have been so painful for everyone. And the added layer of being humiliated in front of other people.
I know her son went on to a really competitive high school too. 😞 But I don’t believe any “success” is worth the trauma.
No, I agree… it's not worth the trauma. And it does come to a point where the person needs to deal with it.
I felt so sad reading about this situation. But when I try to empathize with that mother, I think she might have exhausted all her options and ended up turning to a punishment like this—even if she knew deep down it wasn't the right way. It’s definitely the easy way out, but it leaves wounds that are so hard to undo.
When we stay patient and choose the path of connection—even if it takes a long time to get things back on track—that’s when we raise individuals who can build healthy, lasting relationships in the future. The Dooley approach basically says: 'Come on, let's take a long-term, healthy step and build a bond together!'
Thank you so much for this insightful post, Ann! 🌸✨
I believe she did what she thought was “for his own good” and she probably had a similar experience that made that feel acceptable. When my dad used to hit me and my sister, my mom later told me she didn’t intervene because she thought that’s just what he does as a father. 😩 That to me is a generational issue, and it’ll keep happening until the parent realizes the harm and actively work on self healing and break the cycle.