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Sheeba | This, Right Here's avatar

I had so much fun doing this with you, Ann!❤️

Dooley Noted's avatar

Same! I love the way you write. I feel like I’m in the room as the stories develop. 🥰 And the emotional ups and downs behind each motivation to hold on or let go is so captivating. ❤️

Sheeba | This, Right Here's avatar

Aww, thank you, Ann. This made my day❤️ Your insights are a invaluable to me🫶

V S Uma's avatar

Hey Sheeba and Ann

Great job guys

Loved reading this post

A cardboard box , bot it showed tej creative side of Karthika the saver 👍

Food insights by Ann 🫶🫶🫶

💜☮️💜☮️

V S Uma's avatar

Sorry Sheeba

Had to reply as my messages are not going in Dooley’s link

So…..I posted here ok

Hope it’s okay 🙏🏿

Hey Dooley

If you don’t mind

We can resolve this issue by subscribing to each other

My link is

vsuma.substack.comm

You can have a glimpse of my latest posts when free

If you like we can connect 👍

Dooley Noted's avatar

@V S Uma I am getting all of your replies so no problem! 👍👍

V S Uma's avatar

👍👍👍

Dooley Noted's avatar

Thank you for reading! Which of the character can you relate to more?

V S Uma's avatar

Hey Dooley

I tried submitting my reply to your question

By filling the profile details too

But it wasn’t accepting my Substack handle 🤔

I tried quiet a few times but couldn’t submit my reply

Updating 👍

Dooley Noted's avatar

I am sorry that something isn’t working for you. I’m not sure how to resolve it, but I am able to read your reply. I don’t know about filling any profile details. I appreciate you trying. 🙏

Dr. Amy See, PhD's avatar

I loved how this post used a story to convey a message. love this collab Sheeba and Ann!

Dooley Noted's avatar

I agree! This collaboration brings the challenges to life, and offers something practical and useful to address them.

Isabella's avatar

Such vivid storytelling, that image of Karthika carefully placing each box exactly where she wants it says so much about her without even spelling it out.

Sheeba | This, Right Here's avatar

Thank you so much, Isabella ❤️

Debbie Giannioti's avatar

The message always lands better through a story.

Many years ago, I pressured my son to declutter much faster than he was able to. My concern was valid: there were too many decisions to make and too many things to get through.

But the pressure made the process slow and excruciating, not faster.

These ideas (let the space be the limit, accept what's "good enough", explain things in a way children can understand) look deceptively simple.

Yet I can say from experience: they work.

Dooley Noted's avatar

One thing I love about this story how it taps into the urgency the mom was feeling, but once she noticed her daughter’s distress, she switched her approach. We experience that so often, that when we pause to connect with the emotions rather than the behavior, we reach a win-win solution.

Debbie Giannioti's avatar

Thank you for highlighting that!

It’s one of the most powerful skills we can build as parents.

I didn’t notice that aspect of the story that complements the practical how-to-declutter part beautifully.

Sheeba | This, Right Here's avatar

One of the most emotional points in the story for me was when Karthika's mom looks at her and says "Show me". And the heart broken Karthika shows her mom what those boxes were meant for. Suddenly the daughter who was lost for words, found her voice. And Amma finally understands that those boxes were not junk, but a file system. (PS. I have many many boxes🤣)

Debbie Giannioti's avatar

Those are very powerful words.

When we let go of what we think we know to allow other people (including our children) to share their perspective. It takes courage to admit we may have misjudged a situation and to correct that.