Sent the reset video to the 19-y-o who has yet to put back together her bedroom after completely dismantling it. I don’t even have to go in there to feel anxious- just knowing it’s there …
I understand that feeling. It’s not easy to see our children at any age to struggle with something, especially a skill we want them to have.
The inaction after sending the video may be a few reasons.
1. It might be the overwhelm of not knowing what to do next.
2. She might feel embarrassed about it and the freeze stress response took over.
3. Since the bedroom reset video was created for parents, she might not find it relatable.
At this point, I suggest holding some space without you asking her about it or giving this issue more attention. Focus on your connection with her in other aspects of her life that she feels good about.
If you notice her working on it, let her be. After she makes some progress, ask her how she feels to work on her room. Continue to foster connection through curiosity. Then offer some positive reinforcement about her patience or attention to detail, whatever is appropriate about her efforts. Then offer to assist only if she’s interested.
If 2 weeks go by and nothing changes, still approach her with curiosity and gentle tone to find out if she knows why she hasn’t done anything. Then if she’s open to it, I offer a free consultation that she can do independently or with you.
Looking forward to a wonderful July collaboration Ann❤️
I am excited to share what we come up with! 😄
Sent the reset video to the 19-y-o who has yet to put back together her bedroom after completely dismantling it. I don’t even have to go in there to feel anxious- just knowing it’s there …
I understand that feeling. It’s not easy to see our children at any age to struggle with something, especially a skill we want them to have.
The inaction after sending the video may be a few reasons.
1. It might be the overwhelm of not knowing what to do next.
2. She might feel embarrassed about it and the freeze stress response took over.
3. Since the bedroom reset video was created for parents, she might not find it relatable.
At this point, I suggest holding some space without you asking her about it or giving this issue more attention. Focus on your connection with her in other aspects of her life that she feels good about.
If you notice her working on it, let her be. After she makes some progress, ask her how she feels to work on her room. Continue to foster connection through curiosity. Then offer some positive reinforcement about her patience or attention to detail, whatever is appropriate about her efforts. Then offer to assist only if she’s interested.
If 2 weeks go by and nothing changes, still approach her with curiosity and gentle tone to find out if she knows why she hasn’t done anything. Then if she’s open to it, I offer a free consultation that she can do independently or with you.
https://scheduler.zoom.us/simple-joy-with-ann/complimentary-consultation
I hope this helps, and keep me posted. 🙏