yes it’s important that whoever you seek to help you do something with or for you, is someone that you feel “gets you / emphasise’s with you / is the right fit…”.
💯 there’s no one size fits all.
But that person/s seeking the help need to not just want that help but want to change, if they are a big part of the original issue.
Eg in your example unless the solution provided is “so fool proof” that the initiators can’t do anything except be tidy, then it’s likely I’d say that one or more has to change.
And that requires them to want to change. If not then solutions are unlikely to stick.
Nice article, got me to engage, found my way here from @Chris B Writes two for Tuesday chat.
You are so right to point out that the person seeking help needs to want to change. That’s why if someone contacts me because they got my service as a gift, if they didn’t personally ask for that as a gift, then my most important question when getting on the initial consultation is to find out if they feel the clutter has impacted them negatively in any way. Because in those cases they may be feeling judged that the person who gave them the gift certificate thinks they “should” change. There are also those who want help but don’t want to take on the work themselves. I generally try to explain to them what I do, but offer to refer them to someone who will do the work for them. Then the last group, those who needs help and want to change, are handled with care because they are usually feeling vulnerable and have been hard on themselves to the point of hitting bottom before they accept that they don’t have the skills to tackle it. Thank you for sharing your insights! (P.S. I am not familiar with @Chris B. Writes but glad you found my article.)
yes it’s important that whoever you seek to help you do something with or for you, is someone that you feel “gets you / emphasise’s with you / is the right fit…”.
💯 there’s no one size fits all.
But that person/s seeking the help need to not just want that help but want to change, if they are a big part of the original issue.
Eg in your example unless the solution provided is “so fool proof” that the initiators can’t do anything except be tidy, then it’s likely I’d say that one or more has to change.
And that requires them to want to change. If not then solutions are unlikely to stick.
Nice article, got me to engage, found my way here from @Chris B Writes two for Tuesday chat.
You are so right to point out that the person seeking help needs to want to change. That’s why if someone contacts me because they got my service as a gift, if they didn’t personally ask for that as a gift, then my most important question when getting on the initial consultation is to find out if they feel the clutter has impacted them negatively in any way. Because in those cases they may be feeling judged that the person who gave them the gift certificate thinks they “should” change. There are also those who want help but don’t want to take on the work themselves. I generally try to explain to them what I do, but offer to refer them to someone who will do the work for them. Then the last group, those who needs help and want to change, are handled with care because they are usually feeling vulnerable and have been hard on themselves to the point of hitting bottom before they accept that they don’t have the skills to tackle it. Thank you for sharing your insights! (P.S. I am not familiar with @Chris B. Writes but glad you found my article.)
Hello, I have a very active subscriber chat and you were shouted out in my Two for Tuesday thread!
That’s amazing!! 🤩 I appreciate the shout out. Home organizing and connection-based parenting is quite a relatable topic.